Some people realise their dreams, others don’t. Those who do, how do they go about making their dreams come true? Have they got special powers or can everybody learn to turn their life around?
We all can create our lives provided we have the desire and will to so.We all are born with the ability to fulfil our dreams. Some of us however lack practice, fail to remember how it’s done, need to re-learn how to apply it. As for the learning process itself I hope my Enermazing Project will offer you the map or blueprint you are looking for – this first post constitutes a sort of site preview.
The existence of this specific post is in fact an example and a result of how I myself integrate fulfilling my dreams into my everyday life. The mini version of how I proceed: I’m confident that “I can do it” and that I’ll “stumble upon” whatever is necessary in order to achieve it.
What happened in this instance? After months of collecting material for my project I signed up here on wordpress. While scanning my notes I wondered which topic I should choose for a first post. I took a break and browsed wordpress.com. Only a couple of minutes later I came across Scott Berkun’s Daily Post prompt written only three days earlier. “Wow, thanks, great!” I thought. “Exactly what I was looking for.” I jotted down a few ideas for this post, wrote, revised and published it.
Of course something like a blog post is not a big deal. The point is though that the procedure itself is the same for whatever result we want to achieve, however important or insignificant it may seem.
Success and failureare merely feedback, road signs for our own safety. Lack of success shows us what there still is to learn. It indicates we’re on the wrong track, are using an inadequate method, are blocked by unresolved issues, are not ready yet for what is to come. As long as we are struggling with small everyday problems how can we expect to realise a complex dream?
Realising our dreams – or not?
Here’s Scott Berkun’s prompt:
“Why do some people’s dreams get realized, and others don’t? Make a list of the factors you think are involved, including the ones people do and don’t have control over.”
The following quote by Henry David Thoreau sums the factors up very nicely:
“If one advances confidently in the direction of one’s dreams, and endeavors to live the life which one has imagined, one will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”
The list in detail:
- Choice: “If”
As humans we’ve got limitless free will paired with a limited perspective and understanding of the context, of What Is. We have no idea what we’ll get or what will be the consequences of what we want; we can only feed on our previous experience, statistics or other educated guessing methods. To make the game even more interesting: One of the rules is that choice comes only in a double pack with responsibility for our thoughts and actions; we can’t have one without the other.
- Clarity: “direction of one’s dreams”
Our imagination generates dreams as well as fears, but we tend to let the fears take over – they seem so much more real. Recovering and cleaning up our dreams is the first step, the second one is to evaluate their importance to us, whether they are really something we want to take responsibility for. Are they aligned with the agenda of our True Self (Are we at least aware of it?) or do they merely accommodate a desire for self-indulgence?
- Confidence: “confidently”
At every turn of the road we might be met by doubts, temptations, obstacles. Confidence is the safe vehicle in which we drive past them.
- Specific request: “which one has imagined”
What we can’t imagine being possible we won’t notice. We can’t see the world around us as it is, are unaware of opportunities and our dreams are half hidden in fog. Imagining the result of the next step only – irrespective of whether we can imagine the “how” – leads to becoming consciously aware of possibilities, like switching on extra sensors, sending out a search team or looking through a magnifying glass.
- Endeavour: “endeavors to live the life”
Endeavour or focused intent is the elastic rubber band which allows for time-outs, distractions, taking opportunities because it will always pull us back onto our track. Focused intent helps us to integrate our dreams into our everyday life, to live accordingly instead of contradicting them with our thoughts and actions.
- Persistence: “advances”
Without persistence we’d stop at the first obstacle or roadblock. Through persistence we learn patience, how to pace ourselves and how to manage our resources. Instead of giving up we look for alternatives, go back if necessary and start all over again.
- Serenity: “will meet with”
Serenity is not an activity but a state of mind, a gentle happiness which enables us to step back and look at Life in context. People who are relaxed are more likely to make the right decisions than when under pressure. An open-minded, non-judgemental stance close to our centre of balance enables us to react consciously, immediately and in a way adequate for what we want to achieve.
- Self-transcendence: “success unexpected in common hours”
Nothing we ever do or encounter relates exclusively to us, although from our limited point of view it may well appear so. “Self-transcendence” refers as much to what we consider “beyond our control” as to our trust that at any given moment we will have everything we need or need to know in order to achieve the results we desire.
One factor Thoreau does not mention explicitely: Gratitude. Gratefully acknowledging results – success as well as failure – makes us consciously aware of what we’ve achieved by acting the way we did. Such non-judgemental gratitude boosts our confidence for “next time” and helps us to develop a healthy, humble and stable self-esteem. At the same time it reminds us to give credits to others and to the powerful Transcendental Network, with a “thank you” note to all contributors.
If you like, take the small example of how I came to write this blog post and find which of the above factors are implied. I’ll include a solution* in my next post.
* Note: Of course you may take a peek at my solution before you try to find your own – we can only ever cheat ourselves 😉
Should you want to go a bit further, remember an event in your life where you were surprisingly successful, beyond your expectations. That may have been for example something you did for the first time, or something you got right after a long history of failure, or something you dreaded, were nervous or worried about and yet it all went smoothly. Find the factors involved and how you actually applied them, consciously or not. How did you feel about your success?
Enjoy your journey!